As I write, and as you read this, life is happening all around us. The difference between your life and mine is the internal narrative we use to understand our situations. I call it narrativity…what you get when you create your own unique story line (or narrative) of your life, and how it gives birth (nativity) to your own reality.
Your narrative can be aspirational, framing the future you are working hard to realize. It can be therapeutic, giving you permission to free yourself from the things that are holding you down. Your narrative can be a public proclamation of who you are and want to be, or it can be an intensely personal credo that you alone know and practice. Whatever you choose it to be, be sure your narrative isn’t negative, undermining your self-worth and your chances for success.
This internal narrative is the most powerful interpreter and predictor of your life; not external people or circumstances. Millions of people experience similar events in their lives every day, but how they understand and internalize these events is vastly different, depending on their internal messaging.
There is no easy path; there are only choices in how to frame the journey:
- Be gentle, patient and self-affirming
- Empower yourself; embrace the possibilities
- Divest yourself of anything that holds you back
- Practice gratitude for the good things, in yourself and around you
- No matter how dire a situation may seem, seek the opportunities hidden within
- Keep it real. As you learn, update your narrative to match your experience
Your narrative is more than aspirational; it is your script for success. Model it through your choices and actions…thoughtfully…intentionally…decisively…not for the benefit of others, but to be true to yourself.
Narrativity affirms who you are, and can sustain you through good times and bad. Mindfully work to make it your default thought process. Practice until it is habit, and don’t give in to distractions and shortcuts. You’re not writing a choose-your-own-adventure story, you’re crafting your very own choose-your-own-success story. And in the end, your ability to master narrativity becomes your legacy.
How well is your internal narrative serving you?